The only one who can change yourself - is you.You should always check the difference in your inner feeling of energy.
What's the difference between drive and motivation?
If you just rely on motivation - you're just setting yourself up for failure! The fundamental change between the two is that drive can get you from point a to point b without stopping.
- drive continues
For example: when you're trying to go running you don't care about raining outside or how cold the water is when you go showering.
- motivation is violate
It's easy to be motivated to do hard things when you're comfortable in life when everything is going just a-okay but when you finally face challenges that actually push your buttons motivation is not going to work and that's why you should rely on drive.
That sounds pretty intense but you ought to understand that motivation is volatile.
How to find real drive?
It's normal not to know or to lose a sense of drive, especially if you've gone through any kind of hardships or you've struggled or been challenged a lot lately.
Motivations come in two forms they come:
Extrinsic motivations and these come in tangible rewards, in materialistic gains, in public validation or external validation not wanting to be left out, not wanting to be shamed or publicly ridiculed and so on.
Those things motivate us and actually play a huge role in our decisions. The problem is when we rely too much on our extrinsic values, our extrinsic forms of motivation. Our attachments to these external things are what create the greatest amount of sufferings in our life.
Remember when you attach to these things and you need them, to be motivated, to feel a sure sense of self or to feel a sense of purpose in your life, then sooner or later you will inevitably go through losing your sense of drive and purpose, because you're relying on things that are outside of your mind and body.
Intrinsic motivations are deeply connected to our values and our beliefs.
When we align ourselves with our intrinsic motivations, our values and our beliefs, life runs much more smoothly. The destinations and the goals that you stop at or you intentionally head towards, they kind of happen a lot more. That is a real drive!
When you shift even just some of the weight off of those external motivations into internal ones such as being a good person or contributing to the world. When we live in that type of alignment things do just tend to flow and happen more naturally. Like this you won't need it anymore because you'll already feel like you're in alignment with your highest values.
Tips to determine your drive
1. Talk to yourself
The first step is to sit with yourself. This can be probably one of the most uncomfortable things to do, especially if you're feeling lost or feeling like you're missing a sense of drive or direction. Facing hidden feelings is uncomfortable. Our brains are very intelligent and they give us sneaky little escape rooms like distracting thoughts or endless affairs to avoid having to face these uncomfortable feelings. This does not need to be done in one go.
- What do I want from life right now?
- Is the reason why I want this external or internal?
- What has been stopping me from working towards this thing or from doing this thing?
- What actions and decisions can you make or take or could you?
After answering all of these questions, you’ll determine the real drive of your life for now.
We need to tell you that there are some nuances about drive:
1. You can have several purposes, not only one.
You don't need restrictions. Just know that drive has to run like a red thread through everything you do.
2. Your drive can change.
There are always going to be new purposes. You're phasing out of or growing out of old purposes in your life.
3. Read more about drive
You can read about the real drive in the motivational book "Can't Hurt Me" by David Goggins. Here you will find: the story of David's life; recommendations on how to temper yourself; a list of daily exercises that will make you a machine.
But do not take all the information at face value, because David lives on the brink of possibilities, and for an ordinary person such a lifestyle will lead to inevitable burnout. You can read more about burnout here.
Let's sum up one more time
Drive is the reason you started in the first place. It is constant and purpose-centric. While motivation is the microburst of energy you get to take action, drive is a macro state of being, a characteristic, or a mindset that is harder to attain or squander. Motivation is crap. Motivation comes and goes. When you're driven, whatever's in front of you will get destroyed.